This slide is from a presentation I did referred to as “Instructing Guys To Talk Like Guys.”
What impressed me to create this presentation was when “Harrison” (13), who got here to my school-year group, complimented “Greg,” one other boy in his grade, in regards to the pants he was sporting (saying they regarded good). Greg lashed out at him.
Why did Greg lash out at Harrison?
As a result of there is a *”hidden rule” in adolescent male-male social communication that you don’t praise one other boy in entrance of others, Harrison broke this hidden rule and embarrassed Greg.
Harrison had attended social expertise teams for years, the place he was taught by very well-intended feminine clinicians that complimenting others is “good social expertise.”
This incident is what impressed me to talk up. I discovered that almost all boys in social expertise teams have been studying overly formal etiquette and have been being taught to interrupt the hidden guidelines of male-male social communication for boys their age. They weren’t studying social government operate expertise based mostly on the male-male social communication template. They weren’t studying to be relatable to similar-age boys.
In case your son or daughter struggles socially, they do not want a social expertise group. The analysis is evident: office-based social expertise teams provide no profit to youngsters with ADHD, and the fact is most clinicians who run social expertise teams don’t have any coaching in doing so.
Your son or daughter must be taught within the second as a result of that is how youngsters with ADHD be taught to generalize expertise.
Listed below are two methods you possibly can assist them:
1. Take a look at the “Social Abilities” playlist on the ADHD Dude YouTube channel.
2. Use the Socially Smarter webinar sequence, a part of the ADHD Dude Membership Website. All of the methods in Socially Smarter apply to each girls and boys.
